a person filled with excessive and single-minded zeal
a person who is extremely interested in something, to a degree that some people find unreasonable
Episode 9 of The F Words: Difficult conversations with Dr Leandra Brady-Walker is #Fanatic: Never be Satisfied: confessions of a hyperstriver with Talya Rabinovitz.
I met Talya while she and I were both speaking at Wellness Woman 2016. She totally rocked the panel on work/life blend with her honesty about her struggles with anxiety and depression and her experience working with people suffering from addiction. What really caught my attention was a term she has coined - Hyper-striving. It was like this woman had read the book of my life. Talya is reluctant to call hyperstriving an addiction, but in essence, it is an addiction to success. A hyperstriver is someone who is never happy or content with their achievements.
I felt like I was catching up with an old friend during this conversation. Talya is free with her knowledge and has some great strategies for dealing with hyperstriving.
Where hyperstriving comes from/the risk factors of hyperstriving
How to prevent or at least reduce hyperstriving in your children
What Talya did to help herself become a recovering hyperstriver
About being enough
The difference between being and doing
"arriving" at being good enough
How to achieve success
Redefining your own measures of success
What Talya's measures of success are
The spark of life
Balancing achieving things without becoming addicted to success
Sharing from a place of love vs sharing from a place of fear
The catch 22 of being in a business that you love and making money from it
Putting up internal boundaries between you and your work
Separating your physical being from your spirit/spark
The hallmarks of a hyperstriver
Hyperstriving and perfectionism
The steps to recovering from Hyperstriving
Talya's thoughts on self worth and self love
"Often we hyperstrive away from the things that really mater to us"
"Pull a hyperstriver out of their work environment and place them on a dessert island and they will be the best castaway ever"
"If my sense of worth is coming from what I am doing, then I will never arrive at a place of self love"
One Small Step:
Tell people. Tell your closest friends and those you feel safe with, that you are a hyperstriver. We hyperstrivers travel in packs so you will probably find their are lots around you. That way you can form your own support group to help nourish yourselves.
And your super power would be....
That I could just touch people and they could see the truth of themselves.